She Begged to Leave: How Boarding School Trauma Left Me Childless

A Nigerian woman shares how boarding school abuse, peer pressure, and a dangerous unsafe abortion left her infertile for life. A powerful warning to parents.

When a Child Says “Something Is Wrong”

Boarding school is often seen as a place of discipline, structure, and academic growth. Parents believe it builds independence and strength.

But what happens when a child repeatedly says something is wrong  and no one listens?

This is the story of a Nigerian woman whose life changed forever because her plea to leave boarding school was ignored. What began as friendship and peer pressure ended in trauma, unsafe abortion, and permanent infertility.

What Really Happens in Some Boarding Schools

When I entered a popular boarding school in Enugu, I was young and naive. I believed that every senior student was a role model.

During my first year, I noticed certain girls were close-knit. They studied together and seemed organized.

They approached me and invited me into their circle. I accepted because I thought they were serious-minded students.

But beneath that image was something darker.

They introduced me to “night duty.” At first, I assumed it was late-night studying. Instead, I was taken outside school premises to what looked like a club environment.

That night changed my life.

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Peer Pressure and Exploitation in Secondary School

I was pressured into situations I did not understand. I was given drinks. I lost awareness. I woke up bleeding.

 

When I questioned what happened, I was silenced.

Over time, these outings became normal. When “girls were needed,” we were called. What started as fear slowly became routine. I felt trapped because these girls were influential and well-connected within the school.

I tried to tell my mother during holidays. I begged to change schools.

My father agreed.

My mother refused.

I was sent back.

That decision altered my future.

Unsafe Abortion in Boarding School: A Dangerous Secret

Eventually, I became pregnant.

I did not know who was responsible.

My friends suggested terminating it. I assumed it would involve medication or hospital care. Instead, it was done secretly in a school bathroom using a hanger.

The pain was indescribable.

I bled heavily for days. Blood clots followed. A foul smell developed. I had fever. Still, I was prevented from going to a hospital because exposure would implicate everyone involved.

When my health deteriorated severely, the school called my mother to take me home.

At the hospital, I was treated discreetly. My condition improved, but the internal damage had already been done.

The Long-Term Consequences of Unsafe Abortion

After that incident, I never became pregnant again  even when I was careless.

Medical examinations later revealed severe damage to my womb.

Years passed.

I got married.

I tried to conceive.

Nothing happened.

Today, ten years later, I remain childless.

Doctors confirmed that the unsafe abortion caused irreversible reproductive damage.

Living With Infertility After Boarding School Trauma

Infertility is not just medical. It is emotional. It affects marriage, identity, confidence, and mental health.

Every family gathering becomes a reminder. Every question about children cuts deeper.

Sometimes I wonder: if my mother had listened when I begged to leave that school, would my life be different?

If she had taken my fear seriously, would I be able to have children today?

The regret is heavy.

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A Message to Parents: Listen Before It’s Too Late

Boarding schools are not automatically dangerous. But silence can be.

When a child repeatedly says:

• “I don’t feel safe.”
• “I don’t want to go back.”
• “Something is wrong.”

Listen.

Investigate.

Act.

Ignoring early warning signs can lead to lifelong consequences.

However This story is not shared for pity. It is shared as a warning. Peer pressure in secondary school is real.

Exploitation exists. Unsafe abortion destroys lives. And infertility can be permanent.

Parents must create safe spaces for honest conversations. Schools must strengthen supervision and accountability.

Young girls must be educated about consent, reproductive health, and seeking help.

Because sometimes, a decision made in adolescence shapes the rest of a life.